Hi, I'm Asuna

I help thoughtful professionals who know they have something to say but keep holding back, reclaim their voice and show up with more presence and ease.

If you’ve ever walked out of a meeting, or closed your laptop on a moment where you held back, thinking,
“Why didn’t I just say what I meant?”

you’re in the right place.

Why Your Struggle to Speak Up Is Not Your Fault — and How to Reclaim Your Voice

You’re thoughtful. Conscientious. Always thinking two steps ahead.

You care about doing a good job — and doing the right thing.

But somewhere along the way, your voice got smaller.

Maybe you…

  • Stay quiet in meetings, even when you have something valuable to share

  • Soften your opinions to avoid tension

  • Say yes when you want to say no

  • Over-accommodate — just to “keep the peace”

  • Rehearse what you should’ve said, long after the moment has passed

  • Hold back from sharing your work publicly, because visibility feels too risky

  • Feel like you’re performing a version of yourself just to get through the day

You’ve worked hard to stay calm, thoughtful, and collected.

You’ve learned to navigate your workplace or business by reading the room, anticipating reactions, and staying “appropriate” — even when it costs you your clarity or confidence.

And now? You’re tired of shrinking.

This isn’t about not knowing enough — or not trying hard enough.

It’s about a survival strategy you may not even realize you’ve been using.

Your nervous system has learned that being visible — 

asking for what you need, challenging the norm, showing up fully —

can feel risky.

Especially if you’ve been socialized to be the peacekeeper, the helper, or the one who never makes waves.

You’re not imagining it.

And you’re not alone.

I call this pattern shrinking.

It’s the quiet tension in your jaw.

The overly cautious rewrite of an email.

The voice that gets quiet just when it matters most.

The inner voice that says, “Be careful.”

Shrinking shows up when your system — wisely, unconsciously — chooses safety over self-expression.

But it also keeps you stuck.

When you don’t speak up, people assume you’re disengaged. 

When you over-accommodate, they expect you to keep doing it. 

When you keep shrinking, your insights, ideas, and needs go unheard — and so do you.

Over time, this doesn’t just affect your confidence. It affects how you're perceived, how you're treated, the roles you’re trusted with, or the opportunities you give yourself permission to claim.. 

And the hardest part? You know you're capable of more.

The thing is...

It’s no coincidence that the very qualities that make you powerful — your voice, your clarity, your care — are the ones you’ve been taught to mute.

Reclaiming them isn’t just personal. It’s structural, too.

That’s why I created Unshrinkable at Work

A self-paced program for thoughtful professionals who are ready to stop shrinking and start showing up fully — in their jobs, in their businesses, and in their leadership..

Inside, you’ll explore how to:

✔ Speak up — without freezing, spiraling, or over-explaining

✔ Set boundaries that feel clear and grounded

✔ Lead from your truth, not from people-pleasing

✔ Reconnect with the version of you that knows how to take up space

✔ Show up in your work with more ease, visibility, and self-trust

You don’t have to be louder. Or tougher.

You just need a different way back to yourself.

🎥 I created a free 15-minute video training to help you take the first step ⤵️

Why Your Struggle to Speak Up Is Not Your Fault — and How to Reclaim Your Voice

In this short, powerful video, you’ll discover:

✨ The real reason you freeze, fumble, or stay silent — even when you know what you want to say

✨ Why over-accommodating, overthinking, or over-preparing might be your nervous system’s way of keeping you safe

✨ A surprising insight about confidence that most leadership advice completely misses

✨ A simple embodied practice to help you start to reconnect with your voice

✨ A new way of leading — rooted in presence, not performance

Especially now — when safety is uneven, and boldness carries real risk — reclaiming your voice is a powerful act of self-leadership. You don’t have to do it alone.

In Their Own Words

Experiences from those who’ve worked with me

​​Why Your Struggle to Speak Up Is Not Your Fault — and How to Reclaim Your Voice

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